Do You Make These Mistakes With Clothes?
Wouldn’t it be nice if people walked around with pertinent information in full view, like a stamp on their forehead or something? Useful stuff that’s good to know, from “good cook” or “plays the piano” to “lied on his resume” or “has a psychotic ex-girlfriend.” Wouldn’t that save time and trouble?
Alas, we have no such system.
When we meet someone for the first time, we have to rely on how they look and act to determine how much we want to get to know them. If they dress appropriately, they’ll garner interest. If they ignore the dress code, they’ll most likely be ignored.
Which is a shame, really.
There are lots of bright, articulate, funny people walking around who package themselves inappropriately. From sloppy attire to occasion-inappropriate, they take their sparkling, dynamic selves out into the world in ho-hum, easy-to-overlook attire.
Are you one of them?
Do you routinely miss out on opportunities because of how you’re dressed? If you’ve failed to get a promotion, a leadership position, or even the attention of that cute guy on the fifth floor, perhaps it’s time to take a good look at how you’re dressing.
Here are the most common mistakes I see:
1. Wearing Clothes that Are Too Tight
Just because you can get it zipped doesn’t mean it fits. If it binds, rides up, or requires constant adjustment, it’s too small. Get a larger size.
2. Wearing Clothes that Are Too Loose
Trying to hide a pooching tummy? A bodacious bum? A generous bustline? Then hide THAT part, not your entire body. Learn the camouflage tricks that work for you and you’ll instantly look taller and trimmer.
3. Wearing the Wrong Size Bra
If I had a dime for every woman I’ve seen in the wrong bra, I’d be retired and sipping Mai Tais in Tahiti right now. If your straps dig in, ride up, or slip off your shoulder, you have the wrong size bra. Worse, it may be distorting your silhouette or even causing you back pain. Get the right size and feel like a whole new woman.
4. Being Oblivious to the Dress Code
Jeans at the ballet? Tennis shoes at a wedding? Crop tops at work? When you go someplace in attire that was clearly meant for someplace else, you come across as disrespectful, uneducated, and lazy. Is that really the impression you want to make?
5. Being Ignorant About Accessories
Luxury handbags, cute shoes, and chunky bracelets look spectacular when worn with appropriate attire. But when the mood of the accessories doesn’t match the mood of the ensemble – designer bag with workout gear, flip flops with winter clothes, a felt hat with a summer dress – all focus goes to the errant element. Accessories should complete the outfit, not sabotage it.
You don’t have to spend a lot to dress well, but you DO need to understand what’s right for your body and for various situations. If you take the time to package yourself correctly, you won’t need a stamp on your forehead that says, “I’m competent”, “I’m on the ball” or “I’m the girl you’ve been looking for.” Your appearance and deportment will say it all.